Motor City

Here I am, in my hotel in Detroit. I have to start work at 7am tomorrow, which is really 6am in Chicago, which means I have to wake up at 5am Detroit time to get ready and drive over to the client site, which means I’m waking up at 4am Chicago time. Those are the thoughts that normally run through my head when I’m traveling for work, that constant calculation of time zones.

I’m missing my little Benburoo a ton, even though I talked to him on the phone earlier. Well, it wasn’t talking, it was more like me listening to him wail on the phone as he woke up from a nap.

Traveling isn’t fun.

On a positive note, Claudine and Dan only live about half an hour from where I’m staying. I wen straight there from the airport and we hung out, went to BW3 for dinner then Claudine made these delicious New Orleans beignets for dessert. I got to check out her new place which is pretty sweet, and very easy to find. It’s weird to see Claudine in her own home!

Tonight I’m going to sleep with a pillow next to me and pretend it’s Ben. I will then wake up in the middle of the night and give it a poke to make sure it’s still breathing.

I’d like to dedicate this next song to my main man…my little studmuffin. Sorry Dave! This one goes out to my baby!

I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing
Aerosmith

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
While you’re far away and dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
I could stay lost in this moment forever
Every moment spent with you
Is a moment I treasure

Don’t wanna close my eyes
Don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream would never do
I’d still miss you, baby
And I don’t wanna miss a thing

Laying close to you
Feeling your heart beating
And I’m wondering what you’re dreaming
Wondering if it’s me you’re seeing
Then I kiss your eyes and thank God we’re together
I just wanna stay with you
In this moment forever, forever and ever

I don’t wanna miss one smile
I don’t wanna miss one kiss
I just wanna be with you
Right here with you, just like this
I just wanna hold you close
Feel your heart so close to mine
And just stay here in this moment
For all the rest of time

I’m a big ol’ sap!

BENJAMIN! DON’T FORGET ME!!!

*wah*

Leaving on a Jetplane

All my bags are packed
I’m ready to go
I’m standing here outside your door
I hate to wake you up to say goodbye
But the dawn is breakin’
This early morn
The taxi’s waitin’
He’s blowin’ his horn
Already I’m so lonesome I could cry

So kiss me and smile for me
Tell me that you’ll wait for me
Hold me like you’ll never let me go
Cause I’m leaving on a jet plane
Don’t know when I’ll be back again
Oh babe I hate to go

Today I’m flying out to Detroit. It’s the first trip I’ve taken since January, the first one I’ve taken since Benjamin was born. I wanted to hold off on traveling for a while since I’m still breastfeeding Benjamin, but there’s a shortage of people in the company who can do what I can do. I really hate to leave, but I have to.

I look back on the lifestyle that I had before Benjamin was born, being away every week for a couple days or a whole week, coming home for the weekend and then leaving the next week. My suitcase was my closet, I racked up frequent flyer miles, and I’d be in so many hotels I’d often forget what my room number was. Of course I’d be sad that I’d be away from Dave, but we both had such crazy schedules that even when I was home he’d sometimes be on call and we didn’t see each other all the time.

It’s so different now. I’m not looking forward to taking this trip and being away from my little BenMuffin. My day always starts with him smiling up at me, and the highlight of my night is putting him down to bed. In between it’s filled with laughing jumping, squealing and lately he’s been doing a lot of grunting. He learns something new every day, his world is opening up to him, and I love being there to see him go through every moment of it.

So now I’ll be gone. I’m scared he won’t remember me when I get back Wednesday. I’d hate to learn that he’s mastered some new amazing trick while I’ve been gone, like holding his bottle on his own or sitting up for the first time. I’ll be thinking of him every single moment I’m gone. I’ve copied all my favorite pictures of him onto my laptop so I can go through them when I’m back at my hotel at night.

This week is just the beginning - not only am I traveling this week but I’m also gone for the next 2 weeks.

*cries*

I think I’m going to invest in a webcam so we can do a videochat or something!

He’s So Vain

As any new parent will tell you, I can watch my baby all day. He is so much fun right now, learning new things, trying to move around, exploring the world around him.

I’ve promised myself to take more video of him, he’s growing so fast I don’t want to miss a minute of it.

The other night, I caught this on tape. Bentoot has just learned how to grab for things and move them around in his hands. He also loves looking in mirrors - he thinks it’s another baby and he’ll smile shyly at first then break out into a big grin when he sees the baby in the mirror smiling back at him. So when he had tummy time the other night, I put a toy mirror in front of him. He was fascinated by the baby in front of him, stuck in the little mirror.

Yes, I know, I have a weird cackle laugh and I sound like a chipmunk. But isn’t Ben the cutest? Especially when he makes out with himself.

In 15 years he’s going to hate me for this!

I’ve Gone Cupcake Crazy!

Ever since I made my monkey cupcakes, I’ve been wanting to bake more cupcakes and unleash my creative side. I did a lot of research for designs for the monkey cupcakes, and I found some amazing cupcake artists, they really inspired me. Their cupcake art was beautiful, I could only hope to be half as good as them (click photos for their sites):


So last weekend was the annual block party at my old neighborhood. I wanted to do something special so I found a cute cupcake garden design by SG Cupcakemomma. I went out to Hobby Lobby to purchase some supplies - cake decorating bag, icing tips, fondant, cups, and icing color. I was going to buy a cupcake case to transport my cupcakes, but it was $20 for a case that would hold 12 cupcakes. I’m not ready to pay $40 to carry around two dozen cupcakes! Then it was off to my local Jewel-Osco to buy some frosting - because I’m too lazy to do anything from scratch. I want to give their bakery a big shout out because I went to the lady at the counter and asked if I could have some of their cupcake containers, and she was like, “You don’t want cupcakes?” and I said as I pointed to my supplies, “No, I’m making my own” and she nicely gave me enough containers for 2 dozen cupcakes. I guess it never hurts to ask!

So I labored that night til the wee hours of the morning, baking, icing, cutting out fondant flowers and putting everything together. I’m happy with the results but I’ve left a lot of room for improvement. I did get tired of piping all the grass with the store bought icing that was too soft so I just did my second dozen with plain cream cheese frosting. Next time I’ll definitely make my own frosting, so I can control the consistency.

Here’s the results of my night of cupcake making!


Flowerpot Cupcakes


Chocolate Cream Cheese Cupcakes

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New Layout

There’s a new layout in town! This one is a scene from the moview Memoirs of a Geisha.

There are still a couple kinks in the layout, but I’ll fix ‘em later. Enjoy!

…When the World Stopped Turning

If you’ve been living under a rock for the last couple weeks, today is the 5th year anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. I was going to say “The World Trade Center” attacks, but really, it was much more than that. It was an attack on the Pentagon, as well, an attack on flight 93, an attack against our way of life, an attack on our freedom.

I remember when I was younger, people would always say that there were certain events in the world that you would always remember where you are when they happened. “Where were you when JFK died?” was the one I always heard. For me, it was “Where were you when Princess Diana died?” But really, it only kind of remembered what I was doing when I saw the news she died.

But I remember September 11th, 2001. I remember it clearly. Here’s what I had written in 2002, one year later:

On the morning of September 11th, I was later for work that I usually am. Before running out the door, the TV was on the Today show, which was showing images of the World Trade Center on fire. Katie Couric was reporting that it was an airplane that hit the building, and that chances are it was accidental, there was no cause to suspect foul play. I left, and when I got to work, my coworkers immediately came to me and said ‘They shut down Sears Tower. It’s been evacuated.’ I was really confused. I asked ‘Is this because of the plane that hit the world trade center?’ And they replied, ‘Plane? There were two.’ I had no clue what was going on.

At work, we tried accessing the internet to find out what was going on, but there was too much traffic on CNN and MSNBC. This was a time before blogs were popular, so there was nowhere to get information. Even though we had a little radio, in our building it’s hard for us to get reception on radios, so we couldn’t get news on that, either. All the information came from clients that called, and by calling our homes. My late shift coworker told us about the Pentagon. Another client told us that O’Hare was hit. We didn’t know what was the truth, and we were not aware of the scope of the horror that was happening in New York. We didn’t know that the towers fell, we didn’t know that the plane crashed in Pennsylvania. All we knew was that we’re one of the tallest buildings in downtown Chicago, and that we could be a target, or close to one. Being on the 33rd floor, I can see the Sears Tower outside of my window, and the John Hancock building outside of another. We were watching both that morning.

We weren’t aware of the horrors that were going on in New York, so we just continued working. We even had a team meeting and got chewed out by the president of our company for getting an angry email from a client. We heard from the building that a lot of companies were closing for the day, we were told by management that we would stay. We angrily continued to work, getting information from people on the phones, debatin on just leaving for our safety.

Finally, at 1pm, they evacuated our building. For some reason, we didn’t feel like going home. We went to the local sports bar that we normally hang out at and sat and watched all the different news stations. We sat there in disbelief as we saw image after image. Drinks that we ordered sat untouched as we watched footage of the towers fall. I felt like crying, but I was too stunned, the tears wouldn’t fall. Hardly any words were spoken, other than ‘This is surreal’, ‘Can you believe this?’. But no answers were expected. After we couldn’t take anymore, we went home. Downtown Chicago was a ghostown, nothing was open.

Coming home, I just watched more TV with my father and sisters, hours and hours of it, as if it would give some reason for the madness. We sat there and watched news anchors who had reported on all sorts of terrible things come close to breaking down. I watched until I couldn’t take it anymore, no matter how much I watched, it never made any sense.

I’ve watched a couple of the tribute shows for 9/11. I admit that I still watch to make sense of it all. But this time, rather than feeling an overwhelming feeling of sadness when watching, I feel pride at the actions of so many of the heroes on that day. From the firemen who went in, knowing they might not come out to the ordinary people who helped each other - searching for survivors or helping people down the stairs. There were so many stories of heroism, people selflessly sacrificing themselves to help others. It’s been said that New Yorkers are uncaring, rude people (sorry Denizzy!) but they showed their true colors on that day, and every day since.

The world is a different place today. There’s a sense of caution that wasn’t there before. Chances are, they will try again, and they may succeed. But it’s not going to be easy. They’re not going to catch us off guard so easily again.

Though I am far from a country music lover, I heard Alan Jackson singing this song on the Today show a couple weeks ago, and reflects a lot of the feelings that linger today:

Where Were You
by Alan Jackson

Where were you when the world stopped turnin’
that September day?
Out in the yard with your wife and children;
Or working on some stage in L.A.?
Did you stand there in shock at the sight of that black smoke
Rising against that blue sky?
Did you shout out in anger in fear for your neighbor
Or did you just sit down and cry?

Did you weep for the children
that lost their dear loved ones?
Did you pray for the ones who don’t know?
Did you rejoice for the people who walked from the rubble
and sob for the ones left below?
Did you burst out in pride for the red white and blue
And the heroes who died just doin’ what they do?
Did you look up to heaven for some kind of answer?
And look at yourself for what really matters?

I’m just a singer of simple songs;
I’m not a real political man
I watch CNN, but I’m not sure I can tell you the difference
in Iraq and Iran
But I know Jesus and I talk to God
And I remember this from when I was young
Faith, Hope and Love are some good things He gave us
And the greatest is Love.

Where were you when the world stopped turning
That September day?
Teaching a class full of innocent children;
Driving down some cold interstate?
Did you feel guilty ’cause you’re a survivor
in a crowded room did you feel alone?
Did you call up your mother and tell her you love her?
Did you dust off that bible at home?

Did you open your eyes hope it never happened;
And close your eyes and not go to sleep?
Did you notice the sunset the first time in ages;
Or speak to some stranger on the street?
Did you lay down at night and think of tomorrow;
Go out and buy you a gun?
Did you turn off that violent old movie you’re watchin’
And turn on “I Love Lucy” reruns?

Did you go to a church and hold hands with some strangers?
Stand in line and give your own blood?
Did you just stay home and cling tight to your family
Thank God you had somebody to love?

Where were you when the world stopped turnin’
that September day?

Ben is 5 Months Old!

Ben starts his 5th month of life today (well, actually yesterday, but I’m still up so it counts as the 9th). I was going to post this earlier, but we were at my dad’s place all day so I didn’t get a chance to. It’s incredible to see Benjamin growing every day, learning new things and getting a personality. I’m so happy that he’s a smiley, happy baby and he hasn’t given us too much trouble. It’s hard to think about what my life would be without him - he has made life such a wonderful thing for us, we’re euphoric every time we see him, our hearts jump for joy every time we hear him laugh. I never thought that being a parent could feel so wonderful.

So happy birthday, my beautiful baby boy!

Goodbyes

I was shocked last week when I had heard that Steve Irwin, the beloved “Crocodile Hunter”, was killed by a stingray. First, I thought it was just a hoax, a rumor spread around the internet. But I looked on the internet and found out it was real. I couldn’t believe he was gone, and I was surprised that it was by a stingray. For some reason, I thought he’d die by a croc attack or something.

For as crazy as he was, he did a lot for conservation and for Australia. He loved animals, he adored his wife and his kids (lets forget that incident when he was holding his baby by a croc). I’ll really miss his trademark “Crikee!” and silly grin.

Here’s a tribute video I found on the web:

There was another, less tragic, end of an era last weekend - Andre Agassi’s last game. He sat on the court for several minutes after the game, the crowd standing and applauding him as he hid his head in his hands and cried. He’s been playing this game for so long, I remember when he was the long haired rebel on the court. It seemed like he was just going to be the “lastest thing”, just a flash in the pan. But here he is, more than a decade later, still a contender. It was really moving to see him saying goodbye to the fans and to competitive tennis.

The Working Mom

I’ve been back to work for about 2 months now, and although it’s nice to use my brain again and get out of the house, I end up missing Benjamin terribly! I haven’t traveled yet, but I’ll be going out on my first trip in a couple weeks. I’m not looking forward to it, but it’s part of my job. I’m going to take a million pictures and videos of Ben to put on my laptop and I’m considering getting a video webcam so I can talk to him at night.

Since coming back I’ve been doing some custom work at home and a lot of training classes in the office. I haven’t done much on-site face to face client work, until earlier this week. It was nice to fall back into my old role, the role I had before we had gotten bought out by X-Company and X-Inc. It was like riding a bike. I had done it so much I had no problem falling back into the role. It felt like the good ol’ days.

Of course, I’m still reminded of my role as a mom, gazing at my Benjamin screensaver during breaks and counting the seconds until it was time to go home.

Yesterday I was at my client’s, and I had stopped by the bathroom before I was ready to go home. I saw something on my shoulder that caught my eye. I investigated further and realized that I had a huge trail of Ben spit up going down my should to my mid-back! I had walked around the whole day without realizing that Benjamin had spit up on my shoulder when I was playing with him that morning!

I knew it was too late to hope that no one noticed, but I cleaned up the baby gunk anyway.

I have to remember to do a spit up check in the mirror before I go to work now!