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I guess today is just one of those days...
One of those days when you just need a comforting word or just a little piece of home, because it feels like so long since you've been gone, and it never comes. One of those days when you just feel the weight of the world on your shoulders and you don't know if you can carry it anymore. When old ghosts come to haunt you no matter how much you try to rise above them, to forget them, you can't get away. You try to turn your life around, but you realize that you can never get away from the past. When you feel so alone...
Sometimes I feel like I work so hard to give my life some sort of normalcy, to be true to myself, yet become the person that I want to be. But for every step forward, there's always that chance of falling back again.
I just want to be happy. Isn't that what everyone wants? And I am happy, for the most part, I've got a great husband, live in a nice area, do fun things, but there's a part of me that's off. I don't know any other way to describe it.
Sometimes I just don't know how to be happy. I try so hard to build up a world around me, to feel safe, to be the way I want it to be. But it's all glass, and it's so fragile. I'm afraid of it all falling down.
I guess I'm just really tired today. And maybe just homesick. I just feel sad, so so sad.
I'm tired of traveling. I'm tired of being sleepless at night. I'm tired of feeling like I'm swimming upstream.
Most of all, I'm tired of missing my mom. Life is so hard knowing that she's not around. Even though I'm surrounded by people, sometimes I feel so alone. I love my life now, but I miss the way my life used to be. I'm just not the same anymore. I feel like I'm destroying everything around me...
Sorry for the rant.
It can't be happy in Christineland all the time.
Posted by Yano at February 24, 2004 08:56 PMHmm, I know this feeling...of being burnt out on life in general.
All the amazing big things that come and go in our lives are special, but nothing is more special than the simple things...like feeling at home, or believing that someone close will always be around.
If maybe to only a smaller degree, I understand. I hope you find more "me" time, Christine - and you will.
Posted by: April (lil ape) on February 24, 2004 10:14 PM(((hugs))) for you Christine
Posted by: SarahGillian on February 24, 2004 10:27 PMYou need a vacation Christine - enjoy your trip to Hawaii to the fullest, and don't let that poophead of a company prez talk you into taking a laptop or cell phone for the purpose of working.
Focus on yourself and that wonderful husband of yours. Give yourself a good cry about your mom if you need it. Whatever you do, that trip is for you and for Dave.
((hugs to both of you))
Posted by: Trisha on February 25, 2004 04:07 AMawww... don't worry kiss-tine... me and fata will be there soon to visit and bring some chicago-home-lovin' for ya... for now, keep yer chin up... love you! *muwah*
Posted by: bumblebootie on February 25, 2004 07:07 AMYour description reminds of a lot of my own feelings I have felt on many days when I don't get caught up in being busy with everyday things. You have had a lot of major life changes and a constant busy schedule. Fata and I discussed yesterday how you work harder now because it is the only normal thing you can grasp onto perhaps.
Trisha is right, focus on you and Dave in Hawaii. Also let yourself cry, let yourself take down your walls where you're safe with Dave. I hope you utilize this vacation for some down time to relax and rest and continue to heal.
Please do not doubt my willingness to listen and be your friend if you find yourself in need. *HUGS*
Take care of yourself (I'm serious!)
Posted by: Amy on February 25, 2004 07:58 AMAwwwwwww, my Buttercup!!!
I know how you feel. And I know it's not REALLY comforting, but know that you aren't alone. Trisha is so right about the vacation. You work yourself so hard in EVERYTHING you do. Even if you can take an hour, or hell, 15 minutes to clear your head and think of NOTHING it will do you a world of good.
Hell, you're at a spa. IF, you can get a little bit of time, get something done, even if it's just a pedicure. They don't take too much time. You need a break. You are human, after all.
As for missing your mom, I know I don't know how that feels, but all I can say is to remember what your mom would want. And remember her Heaven? She's got Wheel of Fortune 24/7!!! hahaha
We all love you and want you to be happy. You're the best, and such an inspiration to me. But, you're also a human being, and we're all allowed to have bad days and bad weeks. That's why God gave us feelings, and this is how we learn things.
If you need anything, I'm here, chica!!!! Was that post long enough??
Posted by: Tex on February 25, 2004 08:58 AM{{Hugs, Christine!}}
I hope things get better in Christineland soon - the honeymoon should be a great way to recharge. You deserve it!
Posted by: Noelle on February 25, 2004 09:52 AMyou are a hard worker! but like everyone else had already said, you deserve this break. and don't bring your laptop with you! your blog will always be here. we'll be patiently waiting for your comeback and pics and stories.
Posted by: kathy on February 25, 2004 12:02 PMi KNOW this sounds terribly cliche (as i find i've been telling myself this more and more often lately), but
1. it DOES get easier over tim
2. this, too, shall pass
you gotta take the bad days as they come...makes you appreciate the good days
Awww, Christine. :( First things first.
BIG, GIANT, HUGE, EVEN BIGGER, EVEN MORE HUGE {{{{{{HUGGGGGGGGGGGGG}}}}}}}}
Now that that's out of the way. I agree with Trisha and everyone. Go on vacation, have a good time, leave the phone and the computer at home, tell that boss of yours to go Poop in his hat... (Well, maybe you better not do that to you boss, damn I keep forgetting I'm in HR and I can't say stuff like that) Have a good cry, make Dave cry with you if necessary, lay on the beach, see the sites, have your nails done, get a massage, and get drunk as a skunk. Have fun!!!! You need it. And don't feel bad about having fun either. Your Mom would expect you to have fun and so will the rest of your friends and family. It's OK to be sad today, but when you get home give Dave a giant hug (feel free to share with him what I just gave you) the two of you get on that plane and have the time of your lives! And if that doesn't work.... Go to my blog, there is a funny picture of me and Rusty.... Snicker, snicker. Hugs sweetie, I'll miss you while you are gone but I will excited to see some beautiful pictures. :)
Posted by: Pridey on February 25, 2004 03:26 PMHoney, I understand how you feel. We've all been there (if that helps at all). Try to do something nice for yourself or take a vacation...new scenery is good for the soul and the mind.
But most importantly remember there are lots of people who love you and feeligs are like waves, they ebb & flow. One day we feel one way, another day we feel something else.
Keep your chin up chica. We love you!
Posted by: Lara on February 26, 2004 07:18 AMBTW, I send you big *hugs* and I hope Hawaii is lovely. Go be away from work for awhile!!! Be with your terrific hubbie and enjoy the sands, the waves & the breezes. You deserve it my dear. You truly do.
Posted by: Lara on February 26, 2004 07:20 AMHang in there--sleep and vacations do wonders as do weekend get aways.
But the missing your Mom thing is going to be hard for a while still.
Posted by: janet on February 26, 2004 10:02 AMdefinitely hang in there! take a moment and just do something for yourself. don't think of it as an selfish act. pampering is always good...
maybe an extra nap, long bubble bath, pint of ice cream ( :X ), curl up with a good book, buy something out of the ordinary.... as long as it feeds you the tiny pick me up you need. Losing your mom is something that only time can make it hurt less but just think that she is in a much much better place where she is not in any pain. i'm 100000000% positive she misses you as much as you miss her.
christine, you're not alone. if you're reading this at night, look outside for a moment, look around for a specific glow or a star that catches your eye. Think of it as a symbol for your mom and how everyday she gets to see you and you get to see her. even though sometimes (like when it's daylight), you don't see her–doesn't mean she isn't there... she will always be there for you... always...
Posted by: Mer on February 27, 2004 06:44 PM